Family is No. 1-Think possitive

A true story...

There was a perfect housewife. She has 4 boys. She took care her family very good. She cooked, She did the laudry. She cleaned up the house. The house looked very neat everyday.

But, she had one problem. She didn't like to see her carpets dirty. She always got mad and angry when she saw shoe steps on it. But actually this case might very often happend, with 4 boys at home.

Her family asked her to see a psychologist, named Virginia Satir dan told her problem. After she listened to the housewife story, Virginia Satir smiled & told the housewife:

"Try to closed your eyes and imagine what will I say". Then the housewife closed her eyes.

"Image that your house looks very neat & clean. Your carpet looks very beautiful. No shoe steps, no dirt, no dust. How do you would feel?"

The housewife smiled very happy.

Virginia Satir continiued, "It means, no one at your house. No husband, no children, no laughter. Your house is empty, you don't have someone to share an love. " Suddenly the housewife face became sad, the smiled gone. She cried. She was very worried imagine what would happen to her family.

"Now look at your carpet again. You see shoe steps, means your husband and children are with you. They are at home. They love you. They are by your side," said Virginia. The housewife smiled and satisfied with that example.

"Now open your eyes." The housewife opened her eyes.

"So, is it still a problem when you see shoe steps on your carpets?" Asked Virgina

The housewife smiled and nodded her head, "I know what you mean."


If we can see a problem with different view, then something that looks negative could be positive. Try to reframe our point of view.

So, I thank:

1. For my husband that says to me "We only can eat a little today..." because that means he is with us, not with someone else.

2. For children that asking so many things, because, that means they are in the house, not on the street

3. For our clothes that getting small (because we are getting fat), that means we eat enough

4. For our tired, because we still can work

5. For our alarm clock at 05.00 AM, because it means we still can get up and alive...


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