12 hugs a day, guaranteed…free of illness…!!!

“To survive we need 4 hugs per day. For health we need 8 hugs per day. To grow, ageless, happiness we need 12 hugs per day,” said Virginia Satir, family therapist.

You might be wondering, is it really works? Is hug really has such a great power that could make us health, live longer, and look young? When the last time since you hug someone or somebody had hug you? If your answer is “seldom” or even “never”, try to remember, what were you feel lately? You might be get sick often, depressed, stressed, headache, and emotional.

Many research show that hug therapy can heal physical and mental illness. It can overcome stress, depression, and others. Person who is hugged or hugging, feel a power of love around them. This power increases our body immunity.

The hug of peace
When we’re hugging, our body released the oxytocine, hormone that related to peace and love feeling. Oxytocine hormone makes our heart and mind healthier. The hormone will come out automatically from body, if the person has a health life and peaceful feeling.

Hug therapy is the same with walked therapy. Hug therapy increases our body balanced, health and reduce stress level, especially for young professional. But it doesn’t mean that you have to find spouse or lover to do it. Hug can be done with anybody in love and peaceful feeling. Of course, it has not a negative meaning moreover with a passion. This hug also is not a social hug such as, shaking hand, etc, but it is a touching hug, that really touched and binding each other. When you were hugging, you will feel so comfort and peace.

In Indonesia, and also some of others countries, hug only done by couple, relatives, parents to children. In America, there is a foundation that coordinated and do some campaign of “free hugs” on street. So, don’t be surprised if one day when you were visiting America or Europe, we could see some people with big plank on chest, with Free Hug sign. They are volunteers that give hug therapy to every single person who need it.

Healthier children
“But remember, although it’s only a shake hand or touched cheek to cheek, this could be a benefit as well. There is warmth when we shake hand. But if, it’s more than that, plus a real hug, it will have an extra benefit, since it gives more thru therapy element”, said Dr. Bhagat, one of doctors in India that researching an effect of hug. Hopefully, the community will know the benefit of hug, so as a couple they will hug more and also to their children.

The whole part of our skin, from tiptoe till head is very sensitive. Even when baby still in pregnancy, and protected by amniotic water, he/she really likes to be touched by parents. If he/she is often touched, then he/she will grow in healthy and have a nice growth. Psychically, the baby will grow healthier and become a loving person.

Children that often to be touched, caressed and hugged by parents will grow as a healthy child. They will feel comfort and have a good self confidence. Then, their growth and health is better than a child who never touched and hugged.

Even for adult and parents, touched and hugged is very important. Moreover, when they were in depression or stressed. By hugged, adults feel loved and needed.

Transformation of comfort
A master reiki in Mumbai, India , says,"hug is one of tool to transform. Hug makes one person closer to others. If your relationship with someone in problems, hug will make it better. If your marriage is in trouble, hug your couple 20 times a day. I am sure there will be no divorce. In the other hand, your life both will be happier, healthy, and ageless. And you will be free of stress and depression".

Dr. Harold Voth, senior psychiatrist in Kansas, United States has conducted research with some hundred people. The result, those who is hug each other can dissipate depression, improve body immunity, ageless, sleep well more, and healthier. If baby or child is sick and fussy, don't let them alone, just hug them, and they will feel comfortable. Until their body immune feel better, and their health even also will much better. You as parent also get effect either from this hug therapy. You will be healthier, young, and freed from depression.

Hug can heal physical and mental illness. Touch that produced by hug help to lessen the pain. Some of hard disease frequently make its patient feels frustration, angry, unlikely its disease can’t be healed. With hug, patient that felt frustration will feel comfortable. Hug gives positive energy to patient’s emotion. Hug transforms negative emotion into positive emotion. Moreover, if patient gets hug from the one he/she loved very much. Isn't it true that love is the most powerful strength, and hug is one of to show it.

So, what are you waiting for….???

Ten Things To Tell Your Children Today!

1. I Love You, No Matter What. Let your children know you love them unconditionally. Emphasize that they do not always need to be good, successful, or smart for you to love them. Love their successes and failures.

2. I Respect You. Children deserve respect too! You will teach your children a lot about respecting other people's values and boundaries, when you show them respect.

3. I Support Your Decision. Be supportive in their decisions, as long as it is not something that will cause them harm. There are many adults living with resentment and regret because their parents did not support their dreams and goals.

4. I Am Listening. Listen without judgement or criticism. Listen with out self-referencing. Listen with the intent to just listen. You don't need to understand, relate or like what they are saying. Just listen.

5. You Brighten My Day! Let your child know how much joy they bring into your life. Show them that they are a blessing.

6. I'm So Glad You're My Child. Tell them what unique qualities you admire. Encourage them to share their skills and talents with you.

7. Tell Me More. Be inquisitive in a good way. Show enthusiasm when they are speaking. Use your tone and body language to show you are paying attention. Be curious about what they are saying, but don't interrupt.

8. I Want To Understand. Let your child know when you do not understand what they are going through. Ask them to share, but don't push. Let them come to you on their own free will.

9. Thank You. Show gratitude for the little things, even if it is their responsibility. Thank them when they do something without you asking.

10. Let Me Help You. If your child needs help, be there. Be there with your love and spirit.

by Kelly Nault, Ultimate Mom

The Effects Of Tobacco Smoke On Children

One of the most important things you can do for your child's health is minimize his exposure to environmental tobacco smoke (secondhand smoke). When you smoke, everyone around you smokes, including your children.

The Dangers Of Smoking
Children living in households where people smoke are more likely to cough, be short of breath, and have other respiratory symptoms. Their risk of pneumonia and asthma is increased. They experience irritation of their eyes, nose and throat, and have more colds and ear infections. They even require surgery more often for repeated ear infections and tonsillitis.

Unfortunately, if a child's parent smokes, the child may view smoking as acceptable. Children whose parents smoke are more likely to pick up the habit than children whose parents don't smoke. Adolescents who smoke are more likely than nonsmokers to also use other drugs, including alcohol, marijuana and cocaine. There is evidence that smoking during adolescence, the time when most people begin smoking, may cause genetic changes that lead to lung cancer among former smokers later in life.

Quit Now
If you smoke, quit now. It's not easy to quit smoking, but you can do it. More than 1 million people quit smoking successfully each year. Your doctor probably urged you to quit smoking while you were pregnant. Even if you tried to quit before, try again as soon as possible. Quitting at any time is better than not quitting at all.
Don't think you can spare your child the effects of secondhand smoke by restricting your smoking to one room of your home. Air circulates, and smoke sticks to clothing, carpeting and fabrics, including drapes and bedspreads. Everyone who lives in or visits your house will breathe in your smoke. It takes more than three hours for 95 percent of the smoke from a single cigarette to clear a space.

Help With Quitting
Before you try to quit smoking and especially if you have tried to quit before, you may want to talk with your doctor about medications that can help you quit by easing withdrawal symptoms. There are several "nicotine-replacement" products, some of which are available without a prescription. There is also a prescription medication called bupropion (Zyban) that helps some people to quit. In addition to using medication, you may want to attend a smoking-cessation class or support group.

Here are some tips that have helped smokers become ex-smokers:

- Set a quit date, and spread the news to family and friends to gain their support.
- Exercise to improve your energy and avoid weight gain.

- Drink lots of water. Avoid beverages, such as coffee and alcoholic drinks that you may associate with smoking.
- Avoid smokers and environments where smoking is common, particularly for the first few weeks.
- List your reasons for quitting, and repeat the reasons to yourself regularly.
- If at first you don't succeed, try again! Most former smokers quit for a short time more than once before they successfully quit for good.

If you can't quit (yet), protect your children:
- Smoke outside, and ask everyone, including visitors, to smoke outside.
- Change your clothes as soon as you enter your home.
- Never smoke in the car.

How do I teach my child about strangers?

Unfortunately, the old saying "Never talk to strangers" isn't enough to keep children safe. Children may be confused by our use of the word "stranger." Children see their parents talk to strangers everyday, at the grocery store, at a ticket counter, even at their own front door. Children also may think that strangers are big, scary men who dress in dark clothing and lurk in the shadows.

It's important to give kids specific instructions about what they should do if a person they don't know approaches them. Here are some suggestions of clear messages to give your child:

1. Never go with anyone anywhere, even if you know the person, unless mommy or daddy says it's OK.

2. Never accept gifts from someone you don't know.

3. Never get in a car with anyone, even if you know the person, unless mommy or daddy says it's OK.

4. If someone you don't know offers you candy or a ride, run away and yell loudly, "I don't know you" or "This is not my dad" or "This is not my mom."

5. Tell mommy or daddy if someone you don't know offers you a ride or a gift, touches you, or tries to be friendly with you.

Regularly remind your child that he should never be shy about running away from someone he doesn't know. Let him know that it's OK not to be polite to an adult he doesn't know.

Start giving your child these messages early and often, and they will become second nature.